soft answer*

I was thinking about the scripture saying a soft answer turns away wrath. I saw recently where a couple broke up on facebook. First one part posted a somewhat derogatory comment and soon the other side posted a worse one. We do reap what we sow. I thought about this because it was someone close to me and I hated to see these comments on facebook for everyone to see. I have been thru many breakups in my life, 4 divorces and there were other relationships that didn't last. My thoughts on this are, those women were created in the image of God. Even though the relationship didn't last, I hope to see them in heaven someday. I resisted some temptations I had to say some derogatory things at times. Once, I was so mad I was on my way at night in the dark to bust out some windows either in my spouse's car or apartment. My son hardly ever calls me. That night I was in the neighborhood where my spouse was staying intending to do as I stated above. My Son says, Dad what are you doing? I told him and he said, Dad, you don't want to do that. I didn't, I think it just helped to be able to talk to someone about my anger. I've seen it many times in breakups where terrible things are said to one another. A soft and gentle answer does turn away wrath. I think it is important to remember, they are created in the image of God also. They are God's children or perhaps pre Christians at least. Another scripture says vengeance belongs to God. Another scripture asks why we do not suffer wrong. I have learned to stop looking for the right person and to try and be the right person for someone. I've tried to look at myself and see my part in the breakup and see what I can do better. That person may just not be the right one for you. Don't tear them down with cruel words and bruise them verbally. Give that soft answer and remember they too are created in the image of God. We do not need to be a doormat, but I wonder many times when things don't work out, instead of tearing each other apart with words and actions, just walk away. Marriages can work and relationships can be repaired with God's help when both sides are willing. When one side no longer wants to work at it, it's over. I still believe God's perfect plan is for one woman and one man for life until death do part. I have failed, but God forgives and we start over. I hope to see each of my ex's in heaven someday. It wasn't totally my fault or theirs. I can only work on me. But I hope I can hug each of their necks someday in heaven.  God bless, LVZ.