The Fifth Commandment
Honor your father and your mother. The fifth commandment.
“‘Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the LORD your God is giving you. Deuteronomy 5:16 This commandment gives a reason for obeying it. That your days may be long, and that it may be well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you. I just listened to a PragerU video on this commandment. Dennis Prager said somethings that I am thinking about. One thing he said is not contacting your parents is opposite of honoring them. Dennis said that if we honor our parents our children see that and they are more likely to honor us. You reap what you sow. I felt I did that I in my life, honor my parents, I probably was not the best at it but I know I contacted them. As my kids were growing up I remember many trips across Snoqualmie Pass to see my parents. I remember many trips up to Burlington to see the other set of Grandparents. When my parents divorced, Mom came to stay with us for a short while. I felt that was showing honor. I would still visit my Dad about once a month. One time he was angry, so angry with me, my younger brother who was there at the time had to hold my Dad back so I could get out of the house. I didn't go back for about 6 months. My Dad blamed me for his divorce. He got over it and after about 6 months I started visiting him again. We had a relationship. I had a relationship with Mom also. Even thought I moved away in the last part of her life, I still contacted her and visited when I could. I feel like I modeled honoring my parents. Yes, I wasn't happy with everything they did. But this commandment does not tell us to love them but to honor them. I feel I did that. I loved them also. Some parents are difficult to love. They just are, they are parents, and the first authority we interact with from a very young age. My parents were not perfect, but my Bible still told me to honor them. I was not a perfect parent and it seems the older I get the more I realize things I could have done better. Dennis said another thing that bothers me, because you honor parents, you don't talk to them the same as you do others. You watch your language. I believe that should be true. From a sermon many years ago, when a parent speaks you give weight to their words. You don't necessarily have to agree, but you carefully think about what they said. Probably no one knows a kid as well as a parent that raised them. Are adoptive parents not worthy of respect just because they adopted? They still raised them the best they knew. No parent sets out to mess up their kid, they have best intentions, they will make mistakes. We are to honor even the worst parents. The Bible says so. I don't deny I made mistakes as a parent. I believe I did the very best I knew. I was so young, just 21 years old when the first child was born. I look back, I was still a kid myself. I was blessed with a second child before I reached age 23. I was very young to be a parent. I don't believe there are any perfect parents, some better than others and some worse that others. I am somewhere in the middle. The Bible says to honor our parents, that is not a suggestion, it is one of the ten commandments. Parent are not peers, they are not our friends, they are uniquely parents, the first authority we get to know. The biggest issue in our nation today is absent fathers, uninvolved fathers. Children being raised with out a father in the home. I did the best I knew at the time. I will stand before God some day to give an account of how I raised those children given to me. I may have not been the biological father of one, but I tried to be a provider, food on the table, roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, toys to play with and yes I even disciplined. I did the best I knew. If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness. Proverbs 20:20 As I was studying this I came across Proverbs 20:20. I didn't understand what this meant. So I click on the commentary so I can read what others have said this means. I did not like what I read. To put it in a nutshell, this is the opposite of the blessing promised in the fifth commandment if we honor parents. I did not like what I read. The fifth commandment is a commandment with a promise and I believe the reason God gave a promise it affects society, the way we interact with authority. It is a big deal. It is like we invite a curse on our lives when we don't honor our parents. My parents are gone. They were not perfect, no parent is. Honor the parents you have, God's word tells us to. God bless, LVZ.


