So how do you teach a five year old Jewish child the 7th commandment? The way I heard it explained is like this: 5 year old David is invited to a bithday party at his friend Samuels house. He is excited about it and promises to come to the birthday party. A couple of days later another friend Michael invites David to his Birthday Party on the same day. Mickael has wealthy parents, a huge house, a pool, tennis courts and man it is going to be a great party. David calls his first friend Samuel and says he cannot come to his party. He commits to going to Michael's party. David and his Dad discuss what David has just done. He made a promise to Michael, and now he is backing out on his promise. His Dad explains this way: what if I find a woman at the office and decide to make her my new wife and she will be your new Mom? Suddenly David does not like this, this is wrong, he knows it is wrong. There was a promise made between his parents.
I think our understanding has to include the marriage bed is sacred. A promise was made at the time of the wedding, a commitment. Many times our vows will say things like in sickness and in health, until death do part. I know I am not doing this story justice, but hang in there. God's perfect plan since the beginning of time was one man / one woman for life. Sometimes one or both partners heart is hardened and divorce happens. I believe God can rescue and restore marriages even up the the 11th hour, if we are submitted to him. Especially if both are submitted to him. Marriage is not easy. Two people do not always think alike. Sometimes, one of the other has to submit to the others reasoning or point of view on some issues. Back to God's perfect plan. It is not always the easiest path to travel, but it is the best at the end of time. Think of the turmoil children go through when parents separate and divorce. That does not mean it is better to be divorced and still living together. Sometimes through religious teaching, some have stayed together for the sake of their kids only to end up messing the kids up. Kids are smart, you may think you are hiding your true feelings for their sake but most of us if any are not that good. A promise is made to be faithful to that partner back at the beginning of the marriage. Promises are broken, perhaps someone has been unfaithful. the perfect plan from God is one man / one woman for life until death do part. They cleave together and become one in their spirit. They become one as they stand together through all life's ups and downs. they are committed to each other and their children. Nothing is better for a child than to receive a good home life with a mother and father that truly love each other and are committed to each other. No education, no trust fund, no job training skills or anything can replace that good home life for that child. Many times it is selfishness that causes one or the other partner to look elsewhere for relationship that was suppose to happen at home. God's perfect plan, a husband that loves his wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself fo it. Here too, God perfect plan includes a woman that loves her husband and submits in a Godly fashion. This does not mean they take abuse. A man that abuses his wife does not love her. We have gone through many stages through the centuries. At times women were considered property slightly above slaves. When reading some passages it is necessary to remember the time the word was written in. In the beginning God created man and woman in his image. Equals, side by side. Keep in mind God perfect plan, and try to be the right person and not look so hard for the right partner. Perhaps we really need God's direction in a life partner more than at any other time in life. To fit God perfect plan, their is no other partner in life but the one we marry. God's perfect plan is that it last for life. God pefect plan is they cleave to one another and become one. God's perfect plan is children are raised by parents that are blood related to their children, that are committed to each other. When they grow old, they do not worry what if I die first, will my partner treat my kids as well as theirs? The children are common to both, as are the Grandchildren, and on. God's perfect plan is adultery free. There is grace for all who have sinned and failed in God's perfect plan. I wonder what the world would be like if we, the whole of creation, had followed God's perfect plan? think of the heartache each of us has suffered through imperfect parents. Think of the unecessary grief we have cause our children and grandchildren when we have failed. God did not design a perfect plan to be hard, but to be the best for us. God's plan is the best. We cannot go back and fix everything, we can go from this day forward, and follow God's plan as best we can. It is still the best course of action. Most of all, I am thankful for grace, I have not done all that well in the past. I have failed in God's perfect plan and suffered the consequences. But in that failure, I too have experience God's love, his forgivness. that doesn't mean my children do not have to go through some things themselves because of my imperfect life. Many times their are consequences not only for us but also for our children. When you are young and looking for a partner, do you even begin to think though all these things. Do you consider, like David in the beginning of this blog, the effect of breaking a promise when something better comes along. God's plan is best, always has been best and always will be best. O, if I had known what I know now, how many decisions would have been different, if I could see down through the years and see the effect of those decisions. God's plan is best, and it does not include adultery. I am so thankful for grace. God bless, LVZ.